Wednesday, August 31

lessons on celebrating life: tea party in the park

Someone once told me,
"I stopped reading your blog
because it made me feel inadequate."
And to that one, I say,
"Your loss, sister."

However, scrolling through my blog,
I see that it appears that we live
a life of hearts & flowers.
And obviously we have a special son
in a wheelchair.
But I don't try to pretend
that this life is a fairytale.
And that every day is sunny & bright.
That there are non-stop glittery smiles
and exuberant positive attitudes.
But I blog what I want to blog
and you know,
that happens to be things that make me happy.
There are a LOT of down times.
Sad, mad, depressing, low times.
There's also happy, glad, beautiful, even perfect moments.

Sometimes those perfect moments just happen.
Fall out of thin air right into our laps.
But mostly, it takes work & time.
It's a big effort to create special memories,
but worth it as I'll get out!

I'm sure my lil' Ella Rose
won't remember this outing
with her Mama to the park.
But some day she'll see these pictures.
And I hope she'll feel loved.
I'm totally okay with having this enchanting memory
tucked away in a brain vault.

This was a perfect adventure.
Not just in pictures, either.
She was happy, I was happy,
all hearts & flowers.
Except that I didn't get to be in the picture.
Guess we'll have to do it again some time.
Here is a challenge for you.
Take this lesson on celebrating life:
Have a tea party at the park.
Why not?
It's silly, only for children, so naive, too fantasy-land for ya'?
I DARE you.
Memories are worth biiiiiiiig money.

And 3 cheers for Ella!
She went to bed
with no "passy" tonight. Didn't even ask for it.
I didn't think she'd ever be broken of that
dreadful piece of plastic.
It used to be a sanity saver.
Then it turned into a stress maker.
The durned things would disappear
at very untimely moments.
Which meant late-night runs to Walgreens for replacements.
What were we doing to ourselves?
Last week, we just could not find a single one
and said,
"That's it. No more."
So she screamed it out, had a rough night,
but we made it through.
Then, next day,
wouldn't you know it?
She found two of them!
Rooskii was so proud,
"my passy!" smiling all content through the rascal of a pacifier.
But she bites holes in them.
And is way too dependent.
So I've been snipping away at it each day.
"Hole in it," she says, all bewildered.
It's been a rough few days for her around nap & bed time,
but ah,
no whines tonight.
Fingers crossed.

Bring on more hearts & flowers!
My sister & her husband welcomed their 3rd child today!
Happy Birth Day, Hudson!!!!


  1. Yay for no pacis! We did that this week too! Cold turkey. I heard a lot of, "No Ashton big boy. Ashton baby!" But naps have been unsuccessful. Any suggestions? BTW, I love reading your blog because it makes me want to be a better mom. Not inadequate. So thanks. And I love the tea party in the park. But I probably won't do it. You know me.

  2. I personally LOVE, LOVE, LOVE it all! I think you're simply wonderful for all that you do. I love the tea party in the park and I LOVE YOU!

  3. Occasionally I have to remind myself that you're a real person with struggles who is choosing to celebrate the magical moments, because often I find myself reading blogs when I'm tired and frustrated with the day. I love that you celebrate all the good things and make every outing so fun, it's inspiring!

    Whitney had her binky until she almost 4! It saved us and she loved it so much it was hard to let it go, but enough was enough and we told her we weren't getting anymore so as they disintegrated she new the end was near. Interestingly her binky's final death happened at Michelle's house on Creative Friday!

  4. I have way too many cousins and friends who "keep it real" on their blogs...and honestly I don't like reading it! I don't want to hear how bratty your kids were that day, who peed their pants, who threw a tantrum in the store, etc. etc. etc. It's nice to read a blog where it looks like a mother is enjoying motherhood and not letting us know every intimate detail ;) That's why I like your blog!


  5. That is an awesome Idea of tea in the park. What an incredible memory you have made for your self and one to pass on to her. I am so inspired by you.

  6. A one-on-one tea party in the park ... love it! The picture of your little one next to the big tree reminds me of Winnie the Pooh. : )
    Have you ever heard of Barb Uil? Sometimes when I read your blog and see the adventures you plan for your kids I'm reminded of her photography. Celebrating the magic and wonder of childhood is kind of her thing too.

  7. opps ... wasn't finished ... Barb Uil got her start when she fell in love with photography while taking pictures of her kids and their life for her then blog.

  8. It's tough to find just the right balance between "real" and positive. We all have drama in our lives. The question is what we choose to focus on. Some days the challenges need to be addressed; most days not so much.

  9. The sweetest tea party ever. Life is definitely meant to be celebrated and you bring sunshine to others doing it.

  10. what a great post! you are magical, wonderful, positive, and a natural mother. keep writing what you write. there is no going wrong with hearts and flowers! xoxo


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